This isn’t a fairy tale. It’s a redemption story. One I’m still living.
But this time—I’ve given the pen to God.
Who I Am
I’m Healing Avoidant—
A man who used to believe silence was strength.
That if I just kept pushing forward, I wouldn’t have to feel the pain I buried long ago.
But silence doesn’t heal. It hides.
And eventually, everything I tried to outrun—grief, shame, regret—came to the surface.
Where I Come From
I grew up in a home shaped by instability.
My mom battled bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. My dad, an alcoholic, did the best he could.
By 12 years old, I had stepped into the role of caretaker.
I learned to survive, not feel.
To protect, not process.
And I carried that emotional armor into adulthood.
How I Broke—and Began
I was married for almost 14 years. We had a family, but I hadn’t done the inner work.
I avoided vulnerability. I shut down emotionally. I thought loyalty alone would be enough.
It wasn’t.
Eventually, she found love outside the marriage and chose to leave.
And I don’t blame her.
I hadn’t healed. I didn’t even know what healing looked like.
Three years before that, I lost my dad.
Earlier this year, I lost my mom.
And in the space between, I lost the woman who saw me fully—and I pushed her away.
That was my breaking point.
But it was also the beginning.
In the silence, I met God.
Why I Started Healing Avoidant
This wasn’t born from a place of perfection. It was born from the ashes.
Healing Avoidant is for:
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People who were never taught how to feel safely
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People who push away what they want most
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People who love deeply, but live in fear of being seen
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Avoidant attachment isn’t an excuse—but it is an explanation.
And once I understood it, I could finally stop blaming others—and start changing myself.
My Mission
I’m not here to preach.
I’m here to tell the truth. My truth.
Through honest storytelling, music, reflection, and faith—I want to:
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Help others recognize avoidant patterns and break them
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Show men it’s strong to be soft and courageous to feel
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Offer hope to those living with heartbreak or regret
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Invite God into the mess—not just the healing
I’m also a dad.
And I’m doing this work not just for myself—but for my kids.
I want them to grow up with a father who can love openly, not just responsibly.
“I thought the fire was destroying me. Turns out… it was refining me."
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If You’re Here
Maybe you’ve been left.
Maybe you’ve been the one who left.
Maybe you’re grieving someone still living.
Or maybe… you're just starting to realize you need healing too.
You’re not alone.
You’re not too late.
And you don’t have to run anymore.
Because Healing Deserves Receipts—And a Little Humor
After five months of therapy, grief journaling, soul-spilling through music, and oversharing my life in blog posts... I figured it was time to put it all on paper.
Not for a job—
but for the person God sends my way.
Let’s be honest:
She’s gonna want proof I’ve done the work.